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The Spirit of Success – Bob Proctor & Christine Miller

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In Loving memory of Bob Proctor 1934 – 2022

Bob Proctor

Is Success divorced from compassion, from Love, and from Soul?

Bob Proctor interviewed by Christine Miller

Finding the missing pieces to living your ideal life

Christine: What’s the inspiration that has you jumping out of bed in the morning, what keeps you working?

Bob: I love what I do. I’m always working on a big idea, I’m always expanding what I’m doing and I’m just very enthused about it. I love it. So when I wake up, I want to get up and get doing it.People are usually very enthusiastic about doing what they love doing.

The problem with most people is that they are doing what they don’t love doing and they make the erroneous assumption that they have to keep doing it.

Christine: The conventional view of success has been that it is divorced from compassion, from Love, and from soul, based on the idea that you have to be hard and do the other person down to be successful. Do you see that this mindset is changing now?

Bob: I think there’s an enormous shift. I think over the past 25 or 30 years there’s a spiritual transformation taking place in the world, and our view of personal development has changed dramatically. It’s transformed itself from being exclusive to being inclusive. I don’t believe there are any short cuts, but I believe you can take quantum leaps ahead through the transference of information and experience, and that’s where effective coaching can help. I’ve listened to and attended many personal development programmes, and if there was no mention of the soul, no mention of the spirit, even if they were very good, they were incomplete.

Christine: Bob, what is your personal definition of success?

Bob: My definition of success is Earl Nightingale’s definition of success. I adopted it in 1961 and have never changed it:

“Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal”.

Christine: I read that you have undertaken an in-depth study of successful people, and that you’ve spent many years analysing success every day. Would you like to say something about the work you have done over the years, in terms of helping people towards success?

Bob: Christine, I have found that an enormous number of the very successful cannot articulate why they are successful. This is precisely why large corporations may have a very successful sales person, who may sell 3 or 4 times what their next best sales person sells. Yet they are trying to figure out what that person is doing that is so different, so that they can maybe package it and give it to all their sales people – and they’ll never figure it out.

I’ve worked for companies that have had 20,000 sales people and they have had industrial psychologists shadow the sales stars; they come back and they say they don’t know what they’re doing.I began to study this a long time ago and it struck me as being a very common sense approach; if you want to find out why people are successful, study the successful people, really study them, analyse them. My income went from $4000 a year to over a $1 million a year in a relatively short period of time, 2 to 3 to 4 years.I was so shocked with what happened, I wasn’t satisfied with winning, I wanted to know why and that’s what really got me started.

If you think about it, if you want to learn how to drive a car, you would go to a driving instructor; the driving instructor may be your parent or your sibling, but you would go to someone who can drive a car.If you want to fly an aeroplane, you would not go to the jeweller or the corner butcher shop, you would go to a licensed and effective flight instructor, and then you would do exactly what they tell you.

If you want to be extraordinarily good in your profession or your chosen calling, it only makes sense that you go and find out what the successful ones do; what they read, who they hang around with, who they associate with on a regular basis.Do they go to personal educational programmes and study them like a scientist?Which is what I have done and I have found that the winning is a relatively easy thing to do, if you follow the rules.

If you don’t follow the rules you will struggle all your life and I personally subscribe to the idea that you can do more, with less effort and in a shorter period of time.The idea that you have to work harder and longer is ridiculous, that’s a myth that a bunch of people have established, and it isn’t true.Some people work very long, and achieve some degree of success, but it is not necessary.You can be moving in a very calm, confident manner and really make things happen.

Christine: Absolutely.I think one of the biggest things that I’ve noticed is that people get in their own way. How do you facilitate people so that they can get out of their own way, love themselves more,  stop sabotaging themselves?

Bob: First of all, I think an individual has to come to the shocking realisation that they don’t know what to do. There are two definite, distinct sections to the mind that we should focus on, the conscious and the unconscious.

It’s our conscious mind where we seem to gather an enormous amount of information. School is interesting as we become consciously aware of the contents of a book and memorise them so we can repeat them; when we do that, it is expected that we then act on that information, but that is not what people do.

If we listen to them we will find out that they can be pretty bright, but if we watch them they’re not very bright. That’s because the section of our mind that controls our behaviour is not the section of our mind that keeps gathering the information, and we are programmed to live the way we are living, we are programmed to get the results we are getting and if we don’t learn how to alter that programme, it won’t matter how much information we gather, we are still not going to win.

This is what accounts for some very brilliant people being flat broke and not doing very well, and you’ll find other people who are functionally illiterate, they can neither read nor write, and yet they are earning millions of dollars; they are very calm; they are happy; they are healthy and you say ‘how does this happen?’

One person is programmed to win and the other person is programmed to lose; it’s that simple. We have got to understand how the programmes are written, how they are formed, where they come from and how to change them. That’s really what our company ‘Life Success’ is all about, that is what we do.We go in and we show people how to alter the programme and when you alter the programme, you alter the result.

Christine: You say “If success is so simple, why do so few people participate?”  concluding that it is basically because they don’t know what to do, there is an ignorance and a not knowing about them. Is there anything you would like to say further on that?

Bob: First of all there are two things that we have to know, these are absolute prerequisites, if we are going to consciously and deliberately improve the quality of our life.

1. We have to clearly understand where we are;

2. We have to clearly understand where we are going.

You do not have to know how to get there but you do have to know those two things. You have to have a very clear, concise picture of the target that you are shooting at, the goal that you want to accomplish, and you have to be honest with yourself about where you are. When I’m talking about where you are, I’m talking about habit patterns, your programme of study, do you react or do you respond, what is your attitude like and we have to get these things straight. You could have a bad attitude and be reacting. As long as we know we have a bad attitude and we are reacting, we can alter it; but if we don’t understand that, we are never going to get to where we want to go.

We have to understand those two points. I think the thing that really made such a huge difference in my life is when Ray Stanford helped me understand that. He was brutally honest with me. He told me, Bob you are one of the most miserable people I have ever met and he was right, I was unhappy. He said you are always broke. He was right. I was earning $4000 a year and I owed $6000. He said you are always sick, and he was right. Now, I didn’t have a terminal illness, but I would get headaches or colds. He said there is nothing wrong with those results, if they are the results you want; but if they are not the results you want, then there is something dramatically wrong with settling for them.

What you want to do is make up your mind you’re going to change them. That is what the owner of a company should do, that is what a sales person should do, that is what a couple should do with a relationship, and we have got to take it on the chin. If we don’t like what is going on, first we should be having a consultation with the results available, looking back at us from the mirror. It’s that simple.

Christine: One of the words that I have heard you use today, and that I have also seen in your writing, is “settling” for things. Is it a question of when people become aware that they have actually “settled” for something, that maybe it wasn’t even a conscious decision that they made? When they realise that they have settled and they don’t have to settle anymore, that’s when they start getting moving and is where a coach is so useful in pointing this out?

Bob: I think that’s exactly right. When we say “settled for”, that’s saying “This is just the way I am, and I really can’t change it” and we settle for what we are programmed to get.

A child in school maybe programmed to get average results and so pretty soon, they become accustomed to settling for average results. Once out of school, they do the same thing. When they get married, they are probably attracted to a person much like themselves, that settles for average results.

What we have got to do is stop and take a look at the results we are getting and think “is this what I want?” and if it is not, say there is absolutely no way I’m going to settle for this, I am going to build this. You see, I believe something Brandeis said many years ago, that “there is a spark of idealism within every human being, which can be fanned into flame and will bring forth extraordinary results.”

I think that is what your magazine (ReSource/Your Utimate Resource)  is doing, it’s fanning the spark of idealism into a flame and I think that’s what you’re doing, that’s what I’m doing, what Steve White our UK Director, is doing. It’s what we are about and I think that is what everybody wants deep down.

They may not be aware of it, but that’s what they want and we should never settle for anything less than we are capable of getting.

Christine: Another of your premises is that “Spirit is always for expansion and expression” – I really appreciated and identified with this statement that spirit is always for growth. Would you like to say a few words in summary about spirituality and the importance of spirit?

Bob:  Spirit is all there is, there isn’t anything else. Everything we see is an expression of spirit.

Dr Wernher Von Braun said that the natural laws of the universe are so precise, that we do not have any difficulty building spaceships, and sending people to the moon and we can time the landing with the precision of a fraction of a second. He said these laws must have been set by someone, and after years of studying this spectacular mystery of the Cosmos, he was led into the firm belief in the existence of God.

God is expressed in spirit and spirit infiltrates everything in life. Spirit is 100% evenly present in all places at the same time.

Now if a person has trouble with it they should get over it, because they are spiritual beings, and the spirit operates by law, and so the more we understand it the more we take control of our life. The more we understand the laws by which spirit functions, the more guaranteed we are to have a happy, healthy, fulfilled life. Happiness, health and wealth are natural states for creative beings to live in. Unhappiness, sickness and poverty are not natural states.

We are designed for success. We are designed to live fulfilled lives, and if we don’t understand that we are spiritual beings then we are at a loss. We have to understand first and foremost that we are spiritual beings, we have been gifted with magnificent intellectual factors and we are living in a physical body. A body is a sieve at the best, if you put it under a microscope you would see it jumping, dancing – a radiating, gleaming form.

The potential of power in your body is astronomical. There is approximately 11 million kilowatt hours per pound potential energy locked up in the electrons and atoms of your body. Your body isn’t solid, your body is a molecular structure and it vibrates. The vibration that it is in is dictated by the thoughts that we think and we pull our thoughts from spirit, we are spiritual beings. The more we understand this the more powerful we become to take control over our life.

Our circumstance tells us where we are at mentally, spiritually, physically. We have got to wake up and go inside, if we want to improve what is outside too.

I’ll finish with a quote from James Allen, a great Victorian author from England, who said:

‘Circumstance does not make the man,
it reveals him to himself’.

© Christine Miller First Published Resource Magazine 2006
Read why Christine follows Bob’s definition of success, as an Advocate for Love – her  progressive realization of a worthy ideal  https://loveintheboardroom.com/advocateforlove/

Bob Proctor 1934 – 2022 In Loving memory 
In 1961, Bob Proctor started studying “Think and Grow Rich” and it transformed his life. Bob listened to Earl Nightingale’s condensed recording of the book thousands of time. Then, Bob worked shoulder-to-shoulder with Earl Nightingale at Nightingale-Conant from 1968 to 1973, before leaving to start his own personal development company. Today, Bob has studied thousands of books, continues to read “Think and Grow Rich” every day, and is considered the world’s foremost expert on the human mind.
https://www.proctorgallagherinstitute.com/ 

Exploring Success

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What Does Success Really Mean to You?

Could it be having more of something, being better at something or doing a great deed?
And is it making the most of every moment, persisting, and learning to accept yourself as you are – whilst keeping open to possibilities of becoming even more

Exploring Success:
From Outer Space to Inner Vision

 “Well we’re going to space.  Today is an historic day – for it will bring the dream of space travel for many millions closer to reality.”

On September 27th 2004, Richard Branson announced his Virgin Galactic venture,
     “with a sole purpose of making space travel more and more affordable to people throughout the world … Those privileged space pioneers who can afford to take our first flights will not only have the most awesome experience of their lives, but by stepping up to the plate first will bring the dream of space travel for many millions closer to reality … Like so many others, for years I have dreamt of seeing the beauty of our planet from space, experiencing true weightlessness and fully appreciating for the first time that our tiny planet is part of something so much bigger.”

Richard Branson will experience the successful fulfillment of a goal, a dream, when he steps onto that first flight as an astronaut. For him, it will be another manifestation of his success in creating the life he wants. It’s now 2020, and Branson has persisted, in spite of difficulties, overcoming setbacks which might be described as ‘failures’ in order to achieve his vision and the end result of success with his project. Virgin Galactic is completing its second spaceship, and expecting launch this year.

The privilege of exploring space on one of these first 15 minute long flights, at a cost of $250,000, will be an indicator of the material wealth of the 6 participants, (including Leonardo de Caprio and Justin Bieber) and the success which is traditionally implied from being wealthy. Money and possessions are assuredly one measure of success in our world, though not everyone attaches the same value to external manifestations of wealth.

What is Success, Really?

There are many unhappy, discontented rich people; we see and hear about their traumas regularly on TV and in the press. They get to be miserable in comfort, and to buy distractions from their inner turmoil, but they never seem to have enough. So, are they truly successful? There are also many unhappy poor people, for whom the temporary escapism of retail therapy and the comfort and external signs of material success are not available. Are they therefore unsuccessful? And there are plenty of poor, struggling, just-coping, middling and comfortably-off people who are leading lives that fulfill them, most of the time. Are they successful?

We know intellectually that material wealth is not a true indicator of success, and that physical health and spiritual and emotional riches are ultimately of greater importance in living a balanced life than external shows of worth. However, there are values attached to material wealth that underpin society’s perceptions, and power and influence still undoubtedly accrue to those with money – whether their lives are successfully in balance or not.

Defining Success

Perhaps we can define success as reaching a goal, fulfilling an intention or purpose. In which case, you are successful on a moment-by moment basis, because in the normal run of things, your body and brain work together constantly to ensure that you stay alive. Constantly correcting and adjusting, altering pressure, balance, intake and output, the sophisticated system automatically works harmoniously to ensure survival and is, when fully-functioning, the ultimate goal-orientated success mechanism. Your drives and urges when correctly directed and interpreted, lead unremittingly to your continued existence – and that of the species. If you have given up smoking , or are on a healthy eating programme, for example, then each cigarette or calorie laden morsel you refuse is evidence of your success – ongoing proof that you are able to succeed. Translated into your conscious awareness this gives you a powerful “success memory” and serves to support you if you are tempted.

It’s when the drives are misdirected and the “wiring” misroutes that the system can begin to malfunction. Because you have a response mechanism that does exactly and literally what it is told, sometimes the messages get scrambled, and although acting for your ultimate wellbeing and safety, the misrouting causes you to act in ways that end up sabotaging your perfect system rather than enhancing your wellbeing. This is why uncovering your silent saboteurs can be a key step in achieving success, if it is an elusive element in your life.

Success also results from identifying something (or many things) you really want in your life, which you believe are missing, and taking the steps to attain and achieve those things. Looking within, and being honest with yourself about what you can improve in your life, then setting your own agenda and taking action to make the necessary changes. Being and becoming more conscious of your choices, and making definite moves to bring them about, whether it’s to own a home, to learn to meditate or to have a close loving relationship.

So whilst it may be a remarkable and exciting prospect to be one of the first space tourists, it doesn’t necessarily follow that those able to take up the offer will be living successful lives in the fullest sense. Only if they are also on the journey through their own inner space, as well as the journey towards outer space, will they truly be experiencing success.

Exploring Success – The Inner Space

“Success” – a perfect life, that indefinable quality of “total happiness” – is sometimes peddled as an absolute right for everyone, and the assured outcome of whichever psychology, personal or business development ideas are most prominent at the time. Expectations run high that if you read the right books, listen to the right Podcasts, CDs, watch the right videos, and attend the right seminars then your life will be filled with miraculous and easily achieved success, endless sunshine, health, sex and wonderfully fulfilling relationships.

Hmm, okay, so you’ve followed the plan, and invested in the programme, both emotionally and financially – yet sometimes you still find yourself feeling inexplicably down or lonely, you still get angry and shout at the kids, have rows with your spouse, don’t get the raise you want or feel as if there’s something missing.
You can be progressing in so many areas of your life,
when a disturbance arrives unannounced.

planetsThese disturbances seem to hit you like an unexpected UFO from outer space, a swift flashing comet undetected until it breaks through the atmosphere of your life with resounding effect, leaving you wondering what else you can do. Why do these eruptions happen, why do you feel such strong emotions which don’t feature on that “A” list that’s deemed to make up the perfect life? And where’s the braking parachute to assist you to a gentler landing?

Well, stop and think for a moment. Right now, what is it you have in common with everyone else on the planet?

Might it be your humanity? Is it simply that you’re not meant to be ‘perfect’? That you’re a human being, a human becoming….a paradox of being perfectly imperfect.

And what’s more, it really is okay; you have permission to be flawed. “Success” doesn’t equal “perfection”. Those emotions that surface are normal, and natural and human. They are also necessary.

This doesn’t mean you have an excuse to stop growing, perpetuate your less than constructive habits of thought and action, and allow rampant negativity to rule your life. It does mean that you have the opportunity to learn a little about how you can regulate the pressure to be perfect, and allow the blips of life to slide in and out more elegantly, rather than exploding in chaos.

Unexpected Emotional Events

I’d like now to explore two aspects of these unexpected emotional events, the surprises that can leave us reeling with shock that our smoothly successful development seems to have gone into reverse. The first aspect is the influences from childhood which can cause us to mask our true emotions and express only those we believe to be safe. There is sometimes an expectation from adults that children should have happy sunny dispositions and a life of innocent joy and pleasure, but their parents and loved ones can inadvertently create conditions which frustrate their growth. One view of child development, based on the theories and philosophy of Carl Jung and Carl Rogers, is that parents can and do place conditions of worth on their children. This means that there is a tacit, or sometimes explicit, condition within the family that certain emotions are acceptable for open expression, but others are unacceptable, and if displayed, may lead to a withdrawal of affection, care or love.

Philip Larkin, (1922 – 1985), the renowned poet, summed up his view of parental contributions to child development in his 1974 poem called “This Be the Verse”:

They f*** you up, your mum and dad.

They may not mean to, but they do.

They fill you with the faults they had

And add some extra, just for you.

I recently encountered a child client who came to me manifesting anger – tantrums, aggression, breaking things at home, and striking out at classmates at school. After several weeks of exploring, through stories, metaphor, watching, and listening, I discovered that a large part of his “anger” was an inauthentic emotion, and that this child was actually deeply sad. His mother was unable to witness sadness without believing that she must be responsible for the feeling in that person, and her child had absorbed the unacceptability of this emotion in his mother’s model. Noticing that anger was okay, he had substituted inauthentic anger for his true sadness. We worked to give him an inner place where he could be safely sad, and his anger subsided; when it did emerge on occasion, it was as a healthier expression of a controlled and more appropriate emotion which did not overwhelm him.

Unconditional Positive Regard

Removing “conditions of worth” – the “I’ll only love you if …” terms from children is critical to their successful growth, and can be one of the single most important factors in helping them to grow towards being self-actualising individuals. Experiencing “unconditional positive regard”, to quote Rogers, from a coach, mentor or therapist can start a change process not only in the child, but also in the family system, which has far-reaching beneficial results for all concerned. There are strong indications for successful development in a child who can authentically bear witness to all of their emotions and accept them as valid when they are appropriately expressed. Additionally, learning that it’s alright to be “good enough” and that perfection isn’t really possible or necessary are valuable lessons in self-acceptance.

wistfulwomanAt about the same time, I was working with an adult client who was experiencing extreme anxiety and distress because her children were growing up and moving away. Suffering a type of “empty nest syndrome” she would weep frequently, wherever she was, and couldn’t get the thought of her children in danger out of her mind. This greatly affected her health and her relationships, both at home and at work.

Exploration of the underlying feelings revealed that she was suppressing and translating anger, which had not previously been an admissible emotion in her girlhood, nor in her marriage, into anxiety. She was also using distress to mask a fear in herself, of herself – a fear of her own ageing process, which had been brought into sharp focus by the changing roles and perceived loss of status as her children departed and became independent. Admitting to her fear, using that awareness to gain greater self-worth, and acknowledging anger as an emotion which was valid for her to express, helped to evaporate the anxiety and distress, and she was able to process her feelings, own them and let them go. She became aware that she could express appropriate anger, overcome fear  – and that they were true, authentic feelings that were part of her richness of being, not emotions acceptable to someone else, which had been part of an elaborate masquerade.

Spotting the congruence of an emotional expression, noticing when words don’t seem to match behaviour, is helped by keen observation of a client’s physical demeanour. My young client placed his hands on his heart and was in a low-energy state and posture when he described his anger to me. What I noticed was that it didn’t look, sound or feel like “anger” to me – and by carefully eliciting responses through clean questions, we explored his meaning and he was able to identify that he was really sad. For me, knowledge and experience of Taoism and Reiki Healing, and awareness of energy centres (Chakras) in the human body add an important element to the information gathering which is so crucial to facilitating exploration of the inner space.

Owning Your Space

“Everyone has two natures. One wants us to advance and the other wants to pull us back.
The one that we cultivate and concentrate on decides what we are at the end.”

Theron Q. Dumont (1918)

The second aspect of exploring unexpected emotional events relates to owning and valuing everything about ourselves.

SadmanIt’s easy to like the likeable – obvious, and natural. It’s harder to embrace the less ideal, darker parts of ourselves. We all have them, though. Exploring what’s known as the “shadow” side is one of the most valuable and beneficial parts of training in therapy, leading not only to self-understanding but the ability to be compassionate and empathic with and for clients, and in our other relationships. Successful counsellors and therapists provide a safe space for their clients to explore that which they’d initially rather keep hidden – and I like to use the term “owning up” here.

As a child, “owning up” to a wrongdoing was the noble things to do, even if the consequences of punishment were undesirable. As adults, owning up to our weaknesses is possibly an even nobler act. Even though there is not the risk of externally administered punishment, (unless that’s what you choose!) we can be pretty good at inflicting forty lashes on ourselves for our perceived shortcomings, and not giving ourselves the option to be human and forgiven. We are accustomed to pushing down and denying what are considered to be negative emotions, and don’t want to admit that we still get angry, sad, afraid, jealous…whatever the feeling may be. Having the courage to bring out those turbulent emotions that disturb the surface does not threaten our successful development, but enhances and even secures it. Once you bring them out into the light, examine them, learn from them – you tend to find they dissipate and disappear….You can ask yourself what purpose they serve now, what they may have meant in the past, and if they are redundant, let them go. If they have new and more appropriate meaning, then use them to be a fully expressive, aware and authentic individual, in command of your inner space.

Inner Vision – Your Ultimate Success

Being in command of your inner space is your ultimate success.
It’s the only place where you can have total control, and this allows you to have greater positive influence in your world – in your relationships, your career, your education, your family. The more you can learn about yourself, and the more self-aware you become, the fewer the unexpected disturbances that can surprise you.

So take time to be quiet within, develop your inner strengths,
and claim all your emotions as authentically yours.

Your childlike qualities of playfulness, imagination, curiosity – they enable you to explore your inner world, that constellation within, and find undreamt of riches. Those riches will multiply with use, and you will find that the inevitable emotional challenges of being and becoming are easier to assimilate and work through.

It’s no great secret, it simply needs some dedicated time –
but the benefits are waiting for those who care to embrace their inner space, and experience the true meaning of success.

I leave you with the words of Piero Ferrucci, in “What We May Be”:

As the Gods created the universe they discussed where they should hide Truth so that human beings would not find it right away.

They wanted to prolong the adventure of the search.

“Let’s put Truth on top of the highest mountain,” said one of the gods.

“Certainly it will be hard to find there.”

“Let’s put it on the farthest star,” said another.

“Let’s hide it in the darkest and deepest of abysses.”

“Let’s conceal it on the secret side of the moon.”

At the end, the wisest and most ancient god said,
“No, we will hide Truth inside the very heart of human beings.
In this way they will look for it all over the Universe, without being aware of having it inside themselves all the time.”

 Piero Ferrucci, 1982

Dumont Theron Q. (1918) The Power of Concentration Project Gutenberg Etexts December, 1998  [Etext #1570]

Ferrucci, Piero (1982)  What We May Be  New York: Jeremy Tarcher/Putnam

Larkin, Philip (1874)  High Windows  London: Faber & Faber and at http://www.certando.net/larkin.html

© Christine Miller All Rights Reserved

Inviting Love

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Inviting Love The Three Old Men

A woman came out of her house and saw three old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard.

She did not recognize them. She said “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.”

“Is the man of the house home?” they asked.
“No”, she replied. “He’s out.”

“Then we cannot come in”, they replied.

The Husband Returns

In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go tell them I am home and invite them in!”
The woman went out and invited the men in. “We do not go into a House together,” they replied.
“Why is that?” she asked.

One of the old men explained: “His name is Wealth,” he said pointing to one of his friends,
and said pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love.”
Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.”

Wealth Success and Love

The woman went in and told her husband what was said.
Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!!” he said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!”
His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?”
Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house.
She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!”

Choosing the Guest

“Let us heed our daughter-in-law’s advice,” said the husband to his wife. “Go out and invite Love to be our guest.”
The woman went out and asked the three old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.”
Love got up and started walking toward the house.
The other two also got up and followed him.

Which Comes First

Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?”

The old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him.”

“Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success”

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In these times of fear and uncertainty, these simple suggestions and moments of contemplation  can help bring you and our world greater peace, health and Love. It starts with you. Your can build your inner peace and strength day by day to help your resilience, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Day 2. Love at Work […]

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